Ding! Ding!

In this corner, we have “Getting out the door in the morning!” In the other corner, we have “Bed time!

Standing in the other corner is “Coming home from school!” and in our final fourth corner, we have… “Meal Times!

These can be fun family moments, instead of what feels like 12 rounds for the heavyweight title. This two hour training session will show you how to create a realistic routine, that will tear down the boxing ring! Get equipped to win for your family!

Monday, January 20th at 7pm at at Regina Apostolic Church (808 Assiniboine Ave. E.)

If you would like more information about the workshop or have any registration, payment, or childcare questions, please call 306.789.1772 and ask for Mackenzie (Family LIFE Administrative Assistant). Cost is only $20 per person or $30 per couple and supervised childcare is included so register the kids! Register online today at www.familyliferegina.com or phone Regina Apostolic Church 306-789-1234.

Train up a child in the way he should go and when he grows old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

Train.”  It’s an interesting word… because it can be interpreted so many ways.  To some it can mean discipline.  To others it can mean to educate, but I believe it is meant to mean a good mix of both with a slant towards educating.  Too often we think of training as punishing undesirable behavior. However, training for a sport means we practice good habits until they become natural to us. We research the best methods for success and we re-run those methods over and over to get across that finish line first. When we fail, we analyse what went wrong.  If we can put so much effort into training for things like sports, why aren’t we, as parents, putting in all the work for our children? Training our children the way they should go is more comprehensive then having them sit in a corner for a designated length of time.

We should be applying the same principles to train up our children, so they can succeed at the most valuable race they will ever make: the future that God has planned for them. Three words will get you started on the right path:

Practice, practice, practice.

Practice trouble areas.  Here’s a common example.  How many times have you felt helpless just trying to get the kids out the door in the morning?  Simple disobediences’ can lead to quick tempers and just a bad start to the day.  So… practice it.  (Never in the morning! ) Call a family meeting, pick a time and explain how “disobedience at the door” affects everyone.  Have them practice getting coats on, sitting quietly, or whatever else you want to see in the morning routine.  Make it fun, grab a stop watch and time the family.  By practicing trouble areas, without the “time crunch busy go-go” morning environment, you will start to see… better mornings out the door!  If a certain child displays selfishness, have him or her practice showing love and selflessness by thinking of 3 things they can do to add value to those around him.  Praise character as it increases, and acknowledge even the smallest change of heart as it becomes evident.  This is a smart way to walk out the daily faith commanded in Deuteronomy 6.

Link everything to character. Instead of asking a child to put away their toys, ask them to show diligence to complete their task. Don’t just talk about not being late; instead explain how being punctual demonstrates respect. If you’re going to have a chart and put stickers on it when a certain habit is established, make sure to reward the character not the habit. For example, “You did a great job of making your bed, and brushing your teeth this week!”  This could be better explained by adding “You showed respect for our home by getting your responsibilities done on time!”

Here is a link that lists character traits (and their opposites) along with a Biblical definition and Bible verse for each. Spend time focusing on a different attribute each month, or post it on the fridge and consult it when you see a particular weakness that needs addressing.

Teach your children character now, and it will equip them for success in their own race.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. Hebrews 12:1-2

Got a great idea to teach character? Please comment and pass it on!

This New Year brings new choices. We have an opportunity to invest in ourselves and others. Set yourself up for success.

 

Just like God’s grace for us, we have a clean slate to begin anew. Many of us are disheartened by the failings and missed goals of previous years, however. We can become cynical and forget that oftentimes those failings are the vehicle to push up to success when the time is right. 

A new year is a great time of reflection. Consider the good and the ugly of the year before: perhaps we need to relinquish our great expectations and focus on just 1 or 2 baby steps. Improve on what is already working well, or maybe start a whole new routine? 

Whatever you resolve, know that there is a reason most people fail. IT IS HARD! The full-bellied determination we feel while relaxing beside a fire dissolves in the 6 am gloom. We eat a rice cake while reading/sleeping through the Book of Exodus. We are hungry and tired. Like the children of Israel in the desert- we are little children ourselves. We don’t want to do our chores, We don’t want to do our reading and prayer, we don’t wanna eat the food that is best for our bodies!

BUT if you can persevere you WILL reap untold benefits. Your confidence in yourself will grow because you will have accomplished that hard thing. Your children will be rewarded with more time and attention. Your body will become energized and strong. And most importantly, your loving Father will reward your diligence and grant you wisdom and peace, the greatest treasure of all.

Pray and ask what He wants you to work on this year. And then DO IT! Know that it will be difficult but worth it, and that if you feel peace after praying about it then rest in the knowledge that if God says you are ready, than you ARE!

A fun family activity is to discuss the purpose of resolutions together and pray for God to give each of us wisdom in setting our goals. Have each family member write them down separately on a piece of paper and seal them individually. (Young children can draw a picture of something they would like to work on this year.) We store ours with our Christmas decorations so they won’t be lost or forgotten, and next year we will open them up and celebrate our achievements.

 

What are YOU going to do this year? Do you have any tips for success?