Year Resolutions

Hi friends,

Well we’re a couple weeks into January and I’m wondering, how are you doing? No, I’m not asking the quick in passing version, I’m looking at you and wondering, how are you REALLY doing?

January is quite the month. On one hand we’re 

 trying to get back into routine and implement some new changes and on the other we’re just fighting to survive those winter blues. 

Maybe your New Years resolutions have already fallen off the wagon. Maybe your hopes and intentions for working out, practising gratitude or making your health a priority, have left you feeling defeated.

Only 8% of people actually meet their New Years Resolutions. The other 92%, well many of them will have failed by months end. 

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Often our goals are not specific enough. We make things too broad, hoping this will allow us not to judge ourselves too harshly. We think maybe if it’s broad we will be able to achieve it, but the truth is if we can’t name exactly what it is we want, we can’t get there.

This is why I created the group Ten Pounds Down!

This is a group of like minded women. Women with the same goals, the same struggles and the same desire to overcome. With our weekly sessions you can expect results in this 6 week challenge. Community and accountability are the key to success.

This isn’t just about a diet, because those don’t last. This is about discovering the why. 

We’re going to get to the bottom of the thoughts and feelings that drive you to make choices. We’re going to address the cravings, the emotional eating and all the things that keep bringing you back to making the same choices. 

If you’ve lost the weight before, this program is for you.  In fact I’m so confident this will work, I have a money back guarantee. This will help you learn the skills to make these changes for life.

This doesn’t have to be another year you didn’t meet your goal. Get specific, name your why and get some accountability. 

This can be your year! Your year to prioritize your health, your family, your goals. 

To learn more about Ten Pounds Down and claim one of the remaining 3 spots available click on the link.

If your goals are different consider a coaching call, one on one mentoring where we set up a plan to help you acheive the goals you want!

I’m cheering for you,

Jenn Dean

Stop Being So Critical- Celebrate the Win…

Look back at your year and think about your achievements…

Are you too hard on yourself? 

I mean, you might have accomplished 9 out of 10 goals but since you didn’t complete all of them 100% are you a failure? If this is you, you’re not alone.

Why are we so critical?!! Would you like to stop?…. Because you really can. 

It doesn’t have to be this way.

This is an area my clients spend some time on in private coaching. They feel like a bad mom, or a terrible partner, or a lazy employee, or a horrible person. Is this you? Because, honestly, if you are this critical of yourself, you’re probably being harsh towards your spouse and your kids. 

It’s easy to look back and see all our mistakes, but that’s not motivating. 

Instead, it’s time to look over the year and reflect on what went great. 

We all know how it feels to fail, so this time, let’s focus MORE on what we did WELL! 

Year End Reflection:

Sit down with a journal and ask yourself these questions: 

  1. Name 5 proud achievements this year.
  2. List 5 challenges you overcame this year.
  3. What did you learn about yourself?
  4. What did you learn about the people in your life?
  5. Where did I have the most fun?

Now, for the cool kids, do this exercise again but this time, imagine you’re writing this at the end of next year!

 How do you want to answer the questions one year from now? 

What will you be proud of? 

What do you want to have learnt about yourself, your kids, and your partner? 

What challenges do you want to have overcome, and where do you want to have the most fun this year?  

Let’s do it together. 

If you want help to change your life, you need to do something DIFFERENT. 

It’s not a matter of trying harder. You need new tools. New skills. Support in real time and accountability. 

I’ve got you!

Your coach,

Jenn

Self Sabotage

Finish this sentence:   I’ll be happy when…  

My goal as your coach is to help you be happy right now. In whatever circumstance you’re in. If you decide to make a change in your life, I want it to come from a positive place- not from fear or avoidance, and definitely not in the hope that it will make you happy. Learn to accept yourself now. To love yourself with all your strengths and flaws. To embrace the beautiful and the ugly. In my own life, I can recognize now that the parts of myself I love the least still serve a purpose- like a bossy big sister they helped me get to where I am now, and I wouldn’t change a bit. Make a list of your most negative qualities, and then ask yourself how they’ve been useful in your life? I bet they’ve helped you more than once.  Choose to accept yourself right now as is. You are an amazing human, and I’m proud of you!

Coach Jenn
Do you struggle with sabotage? Take a listen.

Changing Directions

Welcome followers, Thank you for all your support over the years and being part of Marshmallow Madness. For those of you just joining us, Marshmallow Madness is going to be slowing down, as we dive into new things.
What will this look like? Well, Families Matter Most now does bi-weekly podcasts. Click Here to check them out.
My email list is another way to get great tips- I offer a FREE class with sign up, monthly tip emails, podcast worksheets, and Families Matter Most updates. Click Here to sign up.

What else am I doing these days? Well Jenn Dean is branching out with her husband to do a Radio Show for Jack FM. (This is not Christian so be aware this is outside of Families Matter Most, but still on topics hitting families today.) Listen in Sunday’s 12-6pm.

Hope to talk to you all again soon!

Families Matter Most ep#5 Spanking

Spanking- Is is ever ok? In this podcast I’m goin there…now I want to know what you think. Grab a cup of coffee, and join in the discussion.

Family Fun

It’s cold and dreary, and our house has been kind of miserable lately. I mean, honestly, I haven’t been a very fun mom. When this happens I try and think of creative ways to bust out of the habit of negativity. Because really, complaining about things I don’t like isn’t really working. So here’s my goal: try and have a great belly laugh every day with the kids. I’m sharing some ideas with you- I’d love to hear about how they worked in YOUR house!  Disclaimer: I have boys. Teenage boys. So far I’ve had three days of belly laughs, and two of them involve violence! What can YOU do in YOUR house? Share your ideas for others with younger kids, or families that aren’t obsessed with action movies.

Bad Joke Battle: During supper I handed out a bunch of terrible jokes I’d written out, and we took turns trying to say and hear them with a straight face. We got 1 point for each smile or laugh, and the person with the fewest points won the game.

I’ve been posting about our family fun on social media, and some of you are wanting the jokes we used. Print these off and have some belly laughs today!

Did you hear about the superhero with a lisp that always worked out?         ~He’s Thor

If spaghetti made an action movie  what would it be called?          ~Mission Im-pasta-ble

What do you call a teacher who doesn’t fart in public?              ~A Private Tutor!

How do billboards talk?              ~Sign Language

What do you call somebody who gets mad when they don’t have any bread?           ~Lack Toast Intolerant

What do you call syrup with a speech impediment?     ~Mrs. Stuttersworth

What’s the best way to carve wood?     ~Whittle by whittle!

What do Mexican clocks say?     ~tick taco

What do you call a ghost poop?     ~boo boo

What do you call a lazy doctor?     ~Dr D-Little

What do mermaids wash their fins with?     ~Tide

Why couldn’t the toilet paper cross the road?     ~He got stuck in a crack

What did the fried rice say to the shrimp?     ~Don’t you wok away from me!

Why did the stallion give the pony a glass of water?     ~Because he was a little hoarse.

Why does the sandwich cook?     ~When it’s bacon lettuce and tomatoe.

What is the foot’s favorite snack?     ~DoriTOES!

Why did the salad go to the music store?     ~To get some beets!

 

Marshmallow Battle:   I gave the kids five minutes to build their defensive fort, and then attacked with a bag of marshmallows! It was so much fun! This was easy and not messy at all. I recommend you go out and buy a bag of large marshmallows (or three) and have a battle tonight! BUT only if your kids are not teenagers. I learned that marshmallows can actually hurt when pelted by teenage boys. Check out Families Matter’s Most instagram post for a fun video of Evan getting attacked by marshmallows!

We’ve also watched Try Not to Laugh youtube video’s and had a slow motion movie fighting scene. More plans include eating a feast style supper with only your fingers (no utensils), having a backwards dinner, and waking the kids in the middle of the night for an impromptu ice cream sundae! Any more ideas? Could you tweak this for use in your family? I’d really love to hear about it 🙂

Families Matter Most ep4: Hard Kids

Episode 4:  Hard Kids

This podcast episode is for every parent who struggles. Encouragement to not give up, to look for ways to reach your child’s heart even when you want to sit on your steps and cry.

If you haven’t already, why don’t you set aside one hour of your time to enjoy my free video workshop on finding Balance. The amount of time and stress it can save you is priceless, but it’s completely free! Just something to love on my people because I want to give you as many tools as possible to help. Look, I get it. Parenting is HARD! I can make it easier. Get your free class here!

Episode 3: Mixed Feelings

Mixed Feelings: You probably deal with this every single day!  I want to help you reach the hearts of your kids. This episode gives insight into “mixed feelings”, what it means and how to use it to help our kids through fear and anxiety.

Has this podcast helped you in any way? I’d love to hear about it. Send me a message telling me how this has helped your family so I can share it with the masses. Your story could be just what another family needs to hear 🙂

Episode 2: Anger

In this episode, Jenn gives some tools to help kids recognize frustration before it leads into anger. You’ll learn how to recognize cues that trouble is brewing, and develop a new perspective on the emotion itself. It’s not so terrible!

Marshmallow Madness: Snowflakes

My thoughts are not like your thoughts. And your ways are not like my ways,” announces the Lord. “The heavens are higher than the earth. And my ways are higher than your ways. My thoughts are higher than your thoughts. The rain and the snow come down from the sky. They do not return to it without watering the earth. They make plants come up and grow. The plants produce seeds for farmers. They also produce food for people to eat. The words I speak are like that. They will not return to me without producing results. They will accomplish what I want them to. They will do exactly what I sent them to do.” Isaiah 55:8-11

We know the Bible mentions snow, 25 times in fact, but often we think of it figuratively. The Bible speaks of our sins being washed as white as snow for example, but the people of Israel must have experienced pure, blinding, fresh snow in order to understand that powerful metaphor.

In my part of the world we’re covered in snow from November to March, and it can be difficult to stay excited about frigid temperatures. We have to remind ourselves that yes, spring actually will come. In Isaiah 55, God encourages us to remember His reasons are better than ours and we need to trust that everything He does is for a reason. Even snow. The scripture tells us that the snow waters the soil and makes plants grow. We don’t usually associate snow with gardening, but actually, all moisture waters the earth. Check out this advanced scientific TedEd video, or this video with the kids to learn how snow is formed. It’s pretty miraculous!snowflake

Today you and the kiddos can create your own snowflake masterpieces using marshmallows and toothpicks.

Let’s keep in mind that although we don’t always understand God’s purpose, he has good plans for us and, just like the scripture above, He intends to accomplish good things in us. In Jer 29:11 He says, “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future.” We can trust that.

Finish off with a quick family prayer. God cares about every area of our lives; let’s encourage the children to pray about whatever is on their hearts. Add to your prayer journal weekly, and be sure to leave space to jot down a quick note when God answers the prayer. Your kids will grow stronger in their faith when they can look back and see what the Lord has done.How did this work for you? Did you adapt it to fit your family?
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