Marshmallow Madness: Gifts of Honor


Every good gift and perfect gift is from above” James 1:17

Christmas is coming and I’m sure children everywhere are hoping and praying for their favorite gifts. Let’s take this week to discuss showing Honor as a gift to others.

Honor is so important, because it determines how we do things. How we relate to one another. It makes an enormous difference in family life because adults and children alike can sense when somebody is genuinely interested in adding value to them or doing the bare minimum. At the National Center for Biblical Parenting, we teach families to honor each other with a practical definition.   Honor is: treating people as special, doing more than what’s expected, and having a good attitude. You can teach even young children that honor is making people feel special.

Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids - BookThis activity comes from the book: “Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes- in you and your Children!”

You  need to prepare a gift for each person in the family. Each person except one should receive something enjoyable. Might I suggest MARSHMALLOWS!  It could also be little trinkets, candies, or some change. One gift however, should look just as pretty wrapped up, but inside is something undesirable. Rocks or dirt work well, an empty container or a piece of paper towel will do.  

Give each person a gift and let them open it. When they received a good gift, how did it make them feel? Special, valued, nice, happy, smiling. How does it feel to receive a bad gift? sad, angry, worthless. Honor is like giving a gift to somebody. We can make people feel special, or sad. Let’s choose to give gifts of honor to our family and friends. Make a list of ways to show honor to those around us: use kind words, go out of our way to help somebody carry something, help others with chores when we’re done ours, empty the dishwasher without being asked, say please and thank you, brush our teeth the first time we’re told, agree to play brother or sister’s game, celebrate others’ milestones or rewards, doing more than was asked, and doing it with a smile.

Keep the list handy and throughout the week look for honoring words or behavior. Praise children (and adults) for giving gifts of Honor just like the gift of marshmallows, When you see dishonoring behavior you can stop and teach at that moment: Wow- that was a lot like giving a gift of dirt!

Read the Bible verse together and thank God that His gifts are always good.He has given us the best gift ever- eternal life with Him!

Finish off with a quick family prayer. God cares about every area of our lives; let’s encourage the children to pray about whatever is on their hearts. Add to your prayer journal weekly, and be sure to leave space to jot down a quick note when God answers the prayer. Your kids will grow stronger in their faith when they can look back and see what the Lord has done.How did this work for you? Did you adapt it to fit your family?

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